The Penis Chronicles presents “Where does Mom fit in?”
When my son was 8 years old he started walking to school without his parents. It was a big deal all around and I was proud of him, but I also struggled with parental doubts about his age, responsibility, what ifs, and societal questions. Regardless, he was loving his new found responsibility.
It was around 2 months into the school year and I had a morning off. So, the night before I asked him if he would like me to walk to school with him the next morning. Initially he loved the idea. However, a few hours later when bedtime rolled around he told me that he had changed his mind. I pretended to pout. He watched me considering and then asked me if I would only walk half way. I stopped pouting because I now realized that he was serious and he wasn’t teasing. I asked him why he only wanted me to walk half way and I was surprised by his answer. “Mom,” he said “I don’t want people to whisper or make fun of me.”
This walking to school alone was clearly a bigger deal then I assigned it so I invoked the parenting steps. Number 1: hide any shock. Second step, be supportive and provide guidance. Third parenting step, thank him for sharing that with me and assure him that I am not upset.
Morning dawned with animatedly spoken words, “Yes, mom is walking to school with me!” He had changed his mind!
It was a beautiful morning. It was dusky and soft small snowflakes were falling. The temperature was frosty but not too cold. We chatted all the way to school. When I stopped short of the school he said that he wanted me to walk all the way to his door. He gave me not 1 but 2 big hugs before heading inside.
No whispering was observed and no making fun was reported.
I was very happy knowing that no matter what mom fits in with support, guidance, love and understanding. There is always a place for mom!
By Shari Marshall – 2019